Dealing with Stress

Are you experiencing distressing feelings like anxiety, depression, stress or anger? You do not have to deal with this alone.  You can call our NAMI Santa Clara County Helpline Helpdesk at 1-408-453-0400, option 1, between 10 am – 2 pm Monday through Friday to talk to someone who will listen non-judgmentally and offer support.  You can also check out our suggestions listed below.

We realize that life can be intensely emotional, unpredictable and even divisive for many people. Significant changes to our lives and our environment can evoke anxiety and stress for many. We at NAMI SCC offer the following suggestions for dealing with stress:

  • Be gentle with yourself and others. Take the time to identify and acknowledge your difficult emotions (like anger, fear or sadness). These are normal reactions in times of stress.  But be prepared to move on to something constructive.
  • Seek out support from friends, family, or organizations who will listen compassionately to your feelings without judging your views. Focus on emotions, not opinions.
  • Practice self-care: Engage in calming activities, such as listening to music, walking, being out in nature, or engaging in any other hobby or activity that helps you stay centered and peaceful.  Avoid TV, newspapers and social media until you have calmed down and gained some perspective.  Focus on other things that are important to you.
  • Try to stay in the present moment rather than regretting the past or worrying about the future.  If you know how, practice relaxation, mindfulness or meditation.  There are community classes, iPhone apps or audio tapes that can help you with this.
  • Let go of what you cannot change
  • Identify what you can change in your life:
    • Adjust your attitude or “reframe” the situation where possible: focus on gratitude for what you have now, cultivate love and compassion for yourself and others, agree to disagree, practice tolerance and look for what you have in common with other people. We all deserve respect as human beings.
    • Take action: “Be a point of light in your world”. If you are ready, find a way, no matter how small, to become involved in a social or other causes that are important to you. Or simply try to be supportive or helpful to family members, neighbors or friends. Discover your passion and compassion, and look for opportunities to act accordingly.
    • Seek the wisdom to know the difference between what you can and cannot change.  Seek guidance If you have a spiritual practice or therapeutic support.

A primary mission of NAMI is to help build bridges of love, understanding and tolerance between all people, no matter what their differences.  Our philosophy, programs and services try to reflect this mission. Go to to learn how you can participate and/or support our cause: providing education, support and advocacy to individuals, families and friends who are affected by mental illness.

A message from the Dalai Lama addressing current worldwide anxiety.